How to Use Restraints in Bed Without Feeling Silly
Let’s be honest: trying something new in the bedroom can feel weird.
Especially when you’re holding a pair of cuffs wondering, “Now what?”
Restraint play doesn’t have to be awkward, intimidating, or full of giggles (unless you’re into that). With the right approach—and the right gear—it becomes a sexy power shift that builds trust, anticipation, and excitement.
Here’s how to do it like a pro... or at least fake it convincingly.
🛠️ Step 1: Choose the Right Restraints
Forget rope (unless you're a knot whizz). For beginners, soft cuffs or under-mattress systems are a no-brainer.
🔗 Try These:
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Loving Joy Beginners Wrist Restraints – Soft, secure, and simple to use.
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Loving Joy Under-the-Mattress Restraint System – Instant setup, no fuss.
🗣️ Step 2: Have a Quick Chat First
It doesn’t have to be a formal meeting. Just ask:
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"Wanna try something cheeky tonight?"
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"You cool with me tying your hands… just a bit?"
Establish consent and safe words (a simple “red” or “banana” will do). Confidence = sexy. Silence = not.
🔄 Step 3: Make It a Game, Not a Scene
Still feeling a bit cringey? Add humour. Try:
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“You’re under arrest for being too fit.”
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“Let’s see how long you last without touching me.”
Laughter can build intimacy too—especially if you’re new to all this.
🧼 Step 4: Keep It Comfortable
Make sure cuffs aren’t too tight.
Check circulation.
No weird bending or contortions.
And maybe skip the coat hanger gag idea. (Yes, someone tried that.)
💥 Optional Add-Ons to Elevate the Play
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Blindfolds: Heighten every other sense
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Feather ticklers: Tease the body while they’re tied
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Vibrating toys: Keep the tension (and moaning) high
🔗 Product Picks:
❓FAQ: Restraint Play Without the Cringe
Q: What if I laugh during it?
A: That’s fine. Sexy doesn’t mean silent. Let it happen—it’s better than fake moaning.
Q: Will I feel out of control?
A: Only if you want to. Always agree on how far you’re going beforehand.
Q: What if I mess it up?
A: You will mess it up a bit. That’s part of the fun. Practice makes sexy.
🛍️ Start Playing Without the Panic
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